so there is a difference between being happy and being happy enough. especially in a relationship. many of us stay because we're satisfied with settling . you should thrive and be better not just ok in a relationship. i know so many people who stay with someone just to maintain status quo or just to say that they have a significant other. this eventually will lead to you resenting them and being mad at yourself for allowing yourself to not find true happiness. never be afraid to be with the person who truly makes you happy if youre gay be gay its no one elses business but your own. dont try to hide it and create this facade of being straight. i tried that and i was miserable, shout out to all my ex boyfriends dont take it personal i just couldnt get past your biggest flaw.....your penis. the world is so intolerant but who cares you are responsible for your own happiness. when you hide who you are it creates even bigger problems (how you doin bishop eddie long). that counts for anything. dont be afraid to date someone who isnt considered "fly" or "cool" because your friends dont agree with it. at the end of the day when they are lonely as shit because they wanted someone who fit a certain image and you are happy as hell with the person who you love even if they dont fit some stupid ass image you will have the last laugh.
when i was in high school i was in an abusive relationship because i thought the person loved me. i couldnt tell anyone what was really going on because i was ashamed that someone like me who is so outspoken and tough let someone treat me like shit. i got some hits in too but at the end of the day it just wasnt a healthy situation at all. to this day i still dont know why i allowed myself to stay. several bruised ribs, black eyes, and busted lips later i woke up one day and said enough is enough. i was lucky enough that nothing too serious ever happened to me. there are so many women who dont make it out alive. if you or one of your friends is being hurt physically by their significant other you have to help. usually they will not want you to because some relationships are like having stockholm syndrome- you develop sympathy and a connection with your kidnapper. they usually will not leave on their own but the most you can do is offer support. if they are in a seriously dangerous situation it is better to report the person. your friend may never talk to you again and they may go back to their s/o but at least you did something.
abuse isnt just physical. it can be emotional or sexual as well. just because youre in a relationship doesnt mean you dont have the right to say no to sex. also never let someone talk to you any kind of way. people are insecure in themselves often will try to talk negatively to their boyfriend or girlfriend in the hopes that they can break down their self esteem and make them feel that they must remain with that persons because no one else will want them. this is a common tactic that many dont recognize which makes it very efffective.
abuse isnt just a man hitting a woman. women also abuse men physically and emotionally. many men are too embarrassed to admit their girlfriend hits them and will never tell anyone. now as a gentleman you dont want to hit her back which is good (honestly my opinion is if that bitch is bold enough to swing knock her ass the fuck out but two wrongs dont make a right and you will go to jail because trust and believe from personal experience the police always believe the woman over the man in a domestic disturbance situation.) dont be afraid to leave. you can go to the police just like a woman and file an order of protection that will prevent her ffrom coming near you. there are some truly crazy women in this world (see: thin line between love and hate, fatal attraction, obsession) and sometimes you need someone else to intervene. you will be more of a man if you walk away or get help than you would be if you allow her disrespect you.
follow your own path to happiness. fuck the rest of the world because at the end of the day we are born alone and die alone. you walk this journey with no one but God and trust me he created you so he is fine with your decisions (unless you like little kids). no one can dictate what should and should not be for you. if you feel like the people around you are not supportive leave them because if they truly care about you they will support you regardless. i lost some friends because of who i truly am and you know what fuck em because the ones that stayed are the most true people i could have ever hoped to meet. stay in your lane you will be so much more satisfied.
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