Advice Hour

Dear Matty,

How do you know if a guy is into you or just into the sex? What does a girl have to do to get a guy to be interested in her nowadays?

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Well  this is a question i get a lot....a mans heart and penis are closely connected so it can often be hard to determine which he is using when it comes to his interactions with a woman. one big clue is if he only contacts you during certain hours. if you never talk to this man before free minutes start hes not really into you as a person he just likes the sex. if he never calls only text then you might just be a jumpoff. if you all cant have a conversation or just chill without sex popping off hes not interested. most men are pretty simple especially those in their 20s. if he calls you just to talk or text you in the middle of the day just because he actually likes talking to you and values your opinion he probably sees you as more than just a booty call. if he actually takes you out on dates and doesnt mind having you around his friends  or family he likes you as a person. the easiest way to tell is stop sleeping with him. if you can still find him then it wasnt just the sex. now if you cut him off from the cookies and he still treats you the same he might be a keeper. if you are content with letting him drop something off in your draws from time to time and are not really interested in a relationship with him then the situation is easier but if you genuinely like this person then you have to learn to separate the sex from the man especially if its good because sometimes a woman gets dickmatized and loses all her good sense. also sometimes you just have to ask. im pretty straightfoward in relationships so its easy for me to just say "look nigga do you like me, could you see yourself in a relaionship with me or do you just like to get it in?" if thats not your style then you can lead him in with questions such as "do you see yourself being in a relationship" "have you met any girls that youve taken an interest in" now only ask these questions if you are truly emotionally prepared for the answer because he may just very well say yes im having sex with you but i really wanna wife so and so. this hurts like hell if you really like someone so only ask if you are ready for the truth. if not then let it simmer and follow the subtle hints. also male pride and ego are extreme just because he acts jealous about other guys doesnt necessarily mean he wants to be with you hes just territorial and claims you as his even if hes only interested in cleaning the nappy dugout (im sorry but i love metaphors for sex and vagina) the best advice i can give for getting a guy to be interested in you is just be yourself. if you pretend to be someone else that man will fall for who he thinks you are and not who you truly are and thats not real love. he will eventually see through you and that will never end well. stay who you are and the right man will find you. hope this helps now get out there and grab up one of the few acceptable men there are left!