as the world changes we find ourselves with a variety of dating options. interracial dating is something that doesn't come up often in my choices but it is often a topic of discussion because of the fact that i attend an HBCU. while our student population is becoming more diverse we are still not at a balance.
seeing as how light i am its pretty obvious that there is a nice little melting pot of races brewing in my DNA. i love all my family members black, white, asian, and hispanic. this may be the case for i don't believe in interracial dating. its not a racist thing but in my bias opinion black people are the most beautiful creatures to walk this earth ; but also its the principle. historically the black family unit has been disjointed from a variety of factors many stemming from slavery. for such a long time blacks could not get legally married and black women were raped by their masters. black men were viewed as virile sex objects and our still viewed as such in the media. every time there is a major black male model is he incredibly dark and muscular. American blacks have been so affected by color that its ridiculous. too many successful men define themselves by their possession one of them being the woman on his arm. how many times have you seen a black man with a non black woman? and if she is black she is very light. i had this conversation with my biracial father and he is also very much against interracial dating.i think my biggest issue are the reasons that black men give for not dating black women. when you say that they have attitudes and are too needy and lack education what you are really saying is my balls arent big enough to handle a woman who could possibly be my equal. they say black women dont know how to take care of a man no you just want a mother. speaking of your mother by saying you dont like black women that is a slap in the face to your mother. when i was working at a well known department store that is far from cheap a black man came in with his white wife and she paid for everything. im pretty sure had this been a black woman the situation would have been totally different. but what this situation really represented to me was this is my white woman who keeps me.
granted there are some birdish black women who would not qualify as good wives shit most of them shouldnt even be allowed to be counted as women with the activities they engage in but this doesnt mean that all black women are the same. this is also true of black men. yes there are plenty of "no good aint shit niggas" but there are also plenty of good black men with education and careers who know how to treat a woman like a lady granted that she has presented herself in such a manner that earns that title. most women are so caught up in dating that bad boy image that they ignore the regular dude that would treat them better than anyone else ever has.
im not saying i wouldnt marry a white woman because i believe in falling in love with a person for who they are on the inside.....she just wouldnt be my first choice. i want to build a strong black family because for whatever reason black people dont like to get married to each other but they damn sure will marry someone white. im not against people who date outside their race im against people who purposely discriminate against their own kind. if you are dating an asian have it be because they are a good person who you fell in love with but not because you bypassed the black woman because you assumed she was a neck rolling attitude having hoochie. dont look past that black man just because you assume he is trifling and has a whole bunch of kids so you go to that puerto rican dude with the long wavy hair ( dont even get me started on people who say they only wanna marry someone who has distinctive white features like "good hair" or light eyes good hair is any hair that grows on your head anywhere else is what can be considered "bad hair" like this lady with this mustache on the metro and her shit is lined up like wtf are you serious and dont even get me started on girls who dont ahem trim the hedges that shit is disgusting i refuse to choke and die on a stray pubic hair just because youre scared to wax but im wayyy off topic right now) but dont be surprised when you get funny looks. there are so many good people to date and i dont believe its limiting yourself by only dating inside your race. we need to stand together as a community that has already suffered so much separation from a variety of factors that we need to work on coming together. and anyway what are you gonna do when someone has to comb your biracial babies hair? her white mother is not gonna know what to do and what about greens? she can cook salt pork or turkey necks! and that white husband is gonna be hella confused when you come to bed looking like the taliban with two scarves on because you dont wanna mess up your edges. #imjustsaying
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