when the loving is so good why would you wanna break up?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqe6S2MZDcM


this song (love hurts by nivea...not break up although i can see why you would think that)  didn't get much play but i love it. anyway at some point all relationships come to an end. especially now being in our twenties you are still having fun and falling in love happens a little too often and sometimes it doesn't end well. this is where things get sticky. you're with someone and you think its perfect then bam next thing you know you're changing that relationship status to single and the tears wont stop. your first instinct may be to drive past that niggas house and bust all the windows out his car and then go to his job and tell his boss hes been stealing then get your homegirls and fuck up his new girl but these are not the right responses

step one is to get rid of everything that reminds you of them. its hard but you either gotta throw it out, sell it, give it away something but going to sleep every night with that teddy bear that he gave you for your anniversary last year is not going to make anything better. all the letters, cards, and texts have got to go. now i clothes and jewelry are a different story....sell that shit! if that nigga broke your heart you better make a profit from it. this is hard but its like a renewal. these physical items are anchoring you the past and hold bad juju. you need to release them.

next cut off all communication. delete on facebook, unfollow on twitter, no text, email, calls NADA! and yall better not be still having sex. if you truly want to get over this person you cant still run to them every minute because you will never be able to disconnect them from your heart. yall are not in a relationship anymore so stop acting like it.

get you a freakum dress grab your girls and go out! whip your hair back and forth (im sorry i just watched that video and she went hard as hell) staying in bed eating cookie dough listening to mary j blige isnt doing anything but making you fat and decreasing your chances of getting a new man. go out and have some fun. you are still desirable and sexy so go show off those newly single cakes and let a fine man buy you a drink or three.

find something to occupy your time. read a book, take up a hobby. do something to keep your mind off that person and also better yourself. explore an interest or catch up with friends that you neglected while you were lost in loveland. 

now it is my belief that the best way to get over one man is to get under a new one and i did this recently just to remind myself that what one didn't want another one will. while this isnt always the best approach it worked for me. it may not for you if you're the sensitive type. if you are then you need to stay single for a little while and give yourself a chance to evaluate what type of relationship and mate you want and what to do the next time around.

time heals all wounds. it will take a little time but you will get over that jerk and find someone who will make you happy.