so recently a lot of my friends have been discussing marriage. they feel like we are at the point where we need to be getting engaged and on one hand i agree but on the other i dont. like i wanna be engaged because i want a 4.22 carat cushion cut flawless red or white diamond in a platinum setting (if mrs right is reading this take note) but it seems that getting married changes everything about a relationship. my bestie simone seems tho think its the vows that cause everyone to freak out about the changing seriousness of the relationship. the fact that you say til death do us part causes many to go running for the hills. a few people i know in my age group are taking that plunge and it makes you wonder how old is too young to get married? i posed this question to someone before and their answer was when you feel you have done everything you feel you have wanted to. at 21 do you believe that youve had all the sexual partners that you want to? some of my friends are on some kill bill numbers so they may have but others know there are still plenty of booty calls to be made and random ppl to casually date. but there are also ppl who like the idea of being in a committed relationship with one person and having one person that they can consistently rely on to always be there. i feel that women may be ready but a man at 21 is not ready for this one woman. he may in love with you but as soon as he realizes all the new pussy hes missing out on hes gonna freak out. there are men in their 40s who cant get it together to settle down with one woman. my dad has always told me that men are not programmed for monogamy and im slightly inclined to believe this. alas ladies is pimps too go and brush your shoulders off. i do believe that everyone has a soulmate the question is simply when will you be able to make a long term committment. having lived with someone i was in love with i learned that there is a big difference between just being in a relationship with someone and making a major move that forces you to be around them on a consistent basis. (im supposed to be writing a paper now dammit) i feel that committment doesnt have to be hard or scary if you just let the relationship flow the natural way it should. people try to force things into a situation jsut because thats what they think a relationship should be. also stop letting your friends influence you. take their advice but dont let what they say or the structure of their relationship influence what goes on between you and your man. marriage is more than words and a ring. ive never been married so you know take this with a grain of salt but every marriage is like every relationsip dont let everything change just because you said "i do" let that make the love stronger. everything yall did premarriage keep doing it. if tuesday is role play night hell make it tuesday and thursday. let everything expand as you allow your love to grow and bloom
so the whole point of this was getting married young. i dont think im ready just yet. i could be engaged which is a promise that one day we will one day take over the world as the ultimate power couple but right now im having fun going to happy hour with my homies and finding how many girls have undercover lesbian fantansies that they want to explore with someone safe, experienced, and non threatening like oh idk umm me!jk but no seriously you would be shocked at the number of girls who want a college girl on girl experience but i wont give you the details. i like being in a relationship its happy....its safe.....its fun. but marriage is a level of respect for you and our union that im not ready for. things wouldnt change in our marriage that wouldnt be in our relaltionship but since i dont like break ups i dont plan on getting divorced and when i jump the broom i want it to be with the robin to my batman or they can take the lead because when you love someone its give and take and whoever changes my last name with a 4.22 carat diamond i want to make sure that theyre down for the level of craziness that comes from dating me hell just knowing me is a damn adventure so the misses must be something special....
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