I keep forgetting we're not in love anymore

i dont even like fantasia but this song knocks especially considering the subject matter and my life

so im supposed to be doing work so yea you know what that mean, but actually im almost done. so anyway i keep thinking about this...can you stop loving someone? a lot of people say that once you love someone its forever or you weren't ever actually in love with them. i dont believe this because i have no feelings toward any of the people i have ever been in love with because time has passed and the lack of communication and interaction has allowed me to release all emotions for them. i have a convo with someone about this and they told me they still have feelings for someone they have not been in a relationship with for over 3 years. well i might be a cold heartless bitch but out of sight out of heart for me. once im over you the emotions leave. it takes awile but it does happen.

i guess if you are in love with someone you tend to hold on to the memories and emotions...well if thats the case why arent you all together now? hmm hmm dont worry ill wait. i have been in relationships where we were damn near married and if i had a pocketful of fucks i couldnt give a half of one about them. i had someone give me a ring and you know what i did with it? threw that bitch in my neighbors yard. i still wanted them about two months later but after that i was over it and know im not in love anymore. i really dont understand how you can say you will always love someone. my parents were married for 11 years and now they cant stand each other.  the only thing they still love regarding each other is the amazing genetic cocktail that they were able to concoct which is me :)

love is one of the strongest emotions that a person can feel but commonly we mistakenly feel it. everyone has a different definition of love and until you can separate love and infatuation you cannot truly feel that emotion. too many people say it without truly comprehending what it means for them and that relationship. sometimes we convince ourselves that we are in love with someone based on what we see on paper. obligated love is shallow and not everlasting.

you may have love for someone forever based on what you felt in the past , but more than likely you are not still in love with them. how can you be in love with someone you havent talked to in years? ppl are constantly changing and evolving so you may be in love with who they were last year, but do you even know them anymore? this is why i think its very possible to stop loving someone. im in love with a few two years ago people but their present existence disgust me. but then again my heart is two sizes too small.