dating people with kids

so my last two girlfriends have had kids and a few of my friends have kids. also nowadays its pretty hard to date someone in your age group who doesnt have some spawn running around. i guess the weirdest part is like trying to get to know the kid and theyre like oh youre the one boning my mom/dad idk how i feel about you right now.

i dont go around my girlfriends daughter but she knows about me.im not trying to be a step parent cuz the girl is like 9 so i dont wanna get too involved in the event of the (very likely) chance that we dont work out. i feel like its a negative for a child to lose someone that they have developed an attachment to. my parents have been divorced for the last 16 years of my life so ive met girlfriends and boyfriends for awhile now. my dad dates a lot idk women go crazy over him but whatevs so hes been seeing the same woman on and off for the majority of my life and i hate that bitch so idc if she falls in the grand canyon but he has dated some women who i genuinely did like. none of them could ever compare to my mother but i did like them as people and were sad to see them go especially since that meant that bitch was coming back. i dont like my moms bfs typically because they kinda act like i dont exist. ive like a few but i never really formed any attachments to them. its not that i wanted my parents together because they are the definition of incompatible but i just couldnt click with the new mates.

some of my friends have small kids and date a lot and their kids have met the new people in their parents lives. some even call them mommy or daddy which is major flag on the play to me. unless you all have the intention of creating that type of long lasting relationship i wouldnt want to give a kid that type of impression to the tiny tot for christ. children develop bonds easily and im also not trying to play mommy to something thats not mine. both my brother and sister have blended families and its hard to deal with kids that arent yours.and until i pop out my own or decide to be really really serious with someone who already has children id rather keep my distance and yall know i absolutely love love love munchkins but so i might also become attached to them and then their mama acts a fool so we break up and ill miss them too. its just easier to create a gap until the time is right. you have to understand that their child is the main priority and everything is done in the best interest of the child...well thats if they are a mature parent. so things are a little more difficult.

but yea its annoying when i cant get any cause she cant get a babysitter.....just thought id throw that in there.