its not just your man

idk why but make it rain is going hard for me right now maybe its because im thinking about NYE but anywhore i get off topic too much. so one thing i have always respected about my dad and brother is that they keep it 100 with me when it comes to men. in my 21 years i have seen that pretty much everything they have told me has proven to be true.

they have always told me that a man doesn't cheat because he doesn't love he does it because he can. hes only as faithful as his options and most men aren't built for monogamy. you aren't supposed to take it personally but uhhh how can do not take your man doing the smash and dash on several chicks personally? apparently he loves you and all those other girls are just him thinking with the wrong head....

men dont look for the perfect woman. they may say they wanna smash rihanna but they know this will never happen. they do have standards though. although i have seen some men with girls who are straight up buggawolves. (ok love all over me by monica just came on and yall dont even wanna know what i think this song is really about) but these girls are less maintenance than the girls that you know keep themselves together. she knows she has fewer options because she knows she looks like all be damned to hell so shes goes harder in the paint for her man than a chick who knows she can pull from a wider variety. dont judge a girl by her looks there are some ugly stuck up chicks who think they are the shit just because someone has been pumping up their head. there are also some really cool and down to earth pretty girls. men bang whoever and whatever they can. i have guys say they will do these horrible things to me on the spot but sir you dont know me my vagina could be hosting every STD known to man but they dont care. men invest time in the girl who proves she has layers and just mess around with hoes, they usually end up the single girl with a lot of kids.

he fears commitment because he knows that when the status changes everything else changes with it. women want so much from a man and it can get ti be a bit much. women have this prince charming image in their mind and guess what.....its not real! you can find a man who loves you  and treat you well but when you have a list of requirements and expectations that's ten pages long a la what chilli wants you are setting yourself up for failure. you aren't perfect especially you sour apple bitter bitches that think every man is scum. if you really know me you know i had a relationship with one of the worst men in existence for far too long, but even i still believe there are good men. true there are some that are pure shit but dont make one pay for something that another did to you 5 years ago.

now one question that has always eluded me and that not even they could answer was why men leave good women. maybe they are scared to hurt her...maybe they like drama and she doesn't have it...who knows. it kinda goes into the same category as women who don't like good guys and only want the ones that treat them like trash people are just fucked up in general this is why im becoming a nun cuz yall hoes......<----side eye dots