The Friend Zone

so as some point of another we have all had an encounter with the friend zone. be it you placed someone there or you got put there it is a place that no one wants to be in. we all have friends but the friend zone is that special place that you arrive at when you like someone in the romantic sense but they only see you as a friend. it burns like the fire of a thousand suns because you have some real, deep romantic feelings for this person. you see yourself being the only one in their life but unfortunately they dont feel the same. they may even hit you with the i see you as a brother/sister. *blankstare* im tryna smang it and you wanna be my sister? no ma'am and no girl. sometimes you even only become friends with this person because you are trying to get with them.

the hardest part of the friend zone is when they find out how you feel and they kinda dismiss it. the real battle comes when they say they still wanna be friends. why the hell would i still wanna be your friend if i know you're the one for me. i mean you don't have to dissolve the friendship but it may be best to pull back a bit. unless you're in that highly addictive love phase where you cant imagine the idea of not having them around. this can also hurt you because you may pass up other potential lovers because you want this one person who doesn't want you. you find yourself going to crazy lengths to do things for them all in the name of love. you stand by and watch as their other significant others treat them like shit and all you can do is be a shoulder to cry on as they go in on whatever the latest asshole has done and you know you would never do something like that to them but they'll never know because they wont give you a chance.

now sometimes there are cases where they wear down and realize that you might actually be the one. this is typically after you get a new boyfriend or girlfriend and they see how good of a partner you are and realize what they missed out on. now do you let them suffer and stay with this new person or do you go with your hearts true desire? the amount of time and attention you also give them can also have a huge effect on their feelings for you. its called beauty and the beast syndrome. suddenly theres something there that wasnt there before. they start to see damn this is a good person and they have some real ass feelings for me.

now not every friend zone has a "brown sugar" ending where you end up together because they finally realize it was you all along. sometimes they are firm in that friend status and you really dont have a chance. thats when you make a pimps decision and decide do you really wanna stay and be their friend because you value them as a friend, leave because you only were in it for romantic purposes, or stay as a friend but pull back a bit because you dont want to get hurt. (so im listening to pandora and whats my name come on and so drake said the square root of 69 is 8 something so i checked and it actually is who knew dont judge me i hate math) but the best advice i can offer is let them know how you feel and see what happens. they may feel the same way and not have said anything you never know ;)