so lovers and friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies, whatever you call it its all the same thing. that point where yall go from being just friends to liking each other to somehow becoming bedmates (do yall like having sex under the covers? i dont gets too hot) . or maybe yall fall in love and enter into a real, serious relationship. either way there is a shift in the friendship. is this a good or bad thing? ive seen situation turn out pretty well and not so well. it has been in my personal experience that when you cross that line everything changes and you can never go back. if you go the relationship route when you break up if its messy you lose both your lover and your friend. that was just my experience. ive seen people go from friends to lovers and right back to friends as if nothing happened. thats to me the ideal situation. if it doesnt work out then you can go back to being friends and you def know a bit more about the person. i dont like dating my friends for the simple fact i know too much about them that can be good when it comes to likes and dislikes but bad when it comes to knowing how they've treated ppl in the past relationships as well as the body count. like i dont mind dating associates but someone i legit consider my double OG triple OG i could never do. mainly because i would be devastated if it ended badly and i lost my friend over some bullshit. im stubborn and have a strict policy of not speaking to my exes after its over and they would be placed in that category. and also im not attracted to any of my friends no shade i love yall heaux but not one of you is my type.
now fuck buddies/friends with benefits is a different story. like there isnt really an emotional connection just a hey you know lets go to the movies and get some chicken oops ok now your dick is in my mouth. it typically works unless one party catches feelings or decided to enter into a relationship with another person. at this point in time either the sex stops and youre back in the friend zone unless you keep sleeping together in which it becomes cheating and thats just #allbad. ive seen people be friends with benefits for quite sometime and everything work out perfectly fine now the fact that neither one of them is seeing someone else leads me to an umm hmm yea ok tight lip nod. nowadays it seems like no one really has time for a relationship but is def DTF. this can actually work in your favor if thats what youre into. i know most people fear labels and therefore dont want to use the terms like boyfriend and girlfriend and yea thats cute for you. but honestly label or not if yall spend a significant amount of time together, are getting it in, and not seeing anyone else then yea yall together but dont wanna say it. #andthatsfine if it works it works not everyone is built for a relationship but being a taurus i value stability and like to know where i stand with a person. but thats just me. if the sex is good and yall have fun together let the chips fall where they may. my main concern is as always someone getting hurt.
i feel like good and true friends are too hard to come by to risk for thrust it thrust it pump it pump it when there are plenty of other ppl out here who are DTF. if its just a fuck buddy or jumpoff and yall dont associate during daytime hours then to me thats better and less messy because you dont already have a bond to that person or anything to lose. but once again this is just a blog and therefore no more than my opinion.
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