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so i guess im the only one who believes that once you break up thats exactly whats that means. that shit is broken and no glue, duct tape, sticky note can fix it. i dont talk to my exes. you are an ex for a reason. there is no need for us to ever speak again. my mom and i were talking about this because her ex bf hit her up and she was like i have a new man please direct my number to your trash folder. i feel the same way. i know a lot of my friends still hang around their exes and thats cute for you but i could never do it. we are not together for a reason no matter what it is we mighta broke up over juice but that was our destiny dont mention tropicana to me. God forgives that doesnt mean i do. we probably arent together for a very good reason so when we decided that we didnt need to be together i decided that we needed to act like we never met. sometimes its hard if i really cared about them but willpower is key. there is one person that i hung on to because i trule loved her maybe a little too much and we were good friends as well but i had to let her go. maybe thats why yall still talk to your exes if you loved someone its hard to cut them out of your life but i find it to be completely necessary. i have only dated one person more than once and i will never do that again. so to avoid the temptation i cut them out of my life completely. once of my exes might be my soul mate but i dont care because something has already occured to break our foundation. not taht we wont fight but if we get to the point that we feel we dont need to be together i cant go for you anymore. i believe you get 3 great loves in your life: your first real love, the person you marry but later divorce, and then the one you end up spending the rest of your life with. (i dont like fantasia but this bittersweet goes so hard for me) if you dont have any kids or joint ventures together there is really no reason to exist in each others lives. even if you get back together there will always be cracks in your relationship because you had to put it back together. like queen bey said trust is like a mirror you can fix it once its broke but you can still see the cracks in that motherfuckers reflection. i also find it very disrespectful to your new mate to still be communicating with your ex. if you are still single then its a different story but for your emotional health you have to let them go. its hard to have a future with someone new when you are still holding onto your past with someone else. i know i talked about this before in my how to get over your ex post (scroll down the side its somewhere there im too frantic right now to figure out how to do the link) but winter break always brings old, at home niggas out the woodwork and right now i have some things on my mind so this just came outta me and maybe this wont help you but its helping me to get this out. i believe you do whats best for you and how you feel about your ex but me no ma'am when i put your book on the shelf i closed it for good